With the economy having its issues its a great reminder to look at your own financial security. If you are like most people pay little attention to how they might handle their family's living expenses should their income suddenly unable to go to work because of an unexpected illness or injury. Perhaps this is because most people feel an injury or illness will never happen to them. However, the statistics are unsettling. Studies show that individuals between the ages of 40 and 65 have a greater chance of missing at least 90 days of work due to an accident or illness than of dying. The average disability period is lasts 2.5 years. This is why disability income insurance should be an important part of your overall financial picture. Disability income insurance protects your most valuable asset, namely your ability to earn an income. You pay a monthly premium and, in exchange, if you become disabled -- through illness or injury -- and cannot work, the insurance company promises to pay you a predetermined benefit amount. In order to understand the right type and amount of disability income insurance for your needs, you should consult a Portland Financial Advisor . One way to understand the financial impact to your family is to add up all the money you will make in your life time and compare that with what it would cost you to insure it.
This is an interesting little study but I'm sure that the guy was NOT wearing a tux, or it would be a whole new game.A new national survey of 904 Americans revealed that men who wear bow ties are perceived as older, fidgety, dull, and more ‘scientific’ and ‘a little weird.’...Participants were divided into three groups. Members of each group were asked to view only one of three separate photos of a faceless male figure sporting a bow tie, necktie and no tie at all. Then, based only on the photo, they were asked a series of demographic and personal questions about that man.
This study concentrates on the bow tie wearer vs. the others — a man wearing a necktie or no tie.
More people viewing the bow tie photo thought that the man (compared with others) was:
Older, A Republican, A store clerk, Smart and brainy, Dull and rigid
Would people like to have this bow tie man around? Not as much as the other men. Fewer people would want the bow tie wearer in the neighborhood, as a friend, or in the family. In fact, based only on the faceless photo, more people would want to stay away from the bow tie man and fewer might like him.
Finally, many responders (39%), noted that they view the man in the bow tie as “a little weird,” compared with only 6% viewing the man either in a necktie or no tie.
Women were a little more charitable to the bow tie wearer but not much more than male responders.
''Double Indemnity" This still from the movie was taken in 1944. What's the point? The point is that the proper length of a tie is always going up and downI predict that as the craze for fatter tie knots and seven fold ties continues it will at some point morph into wide ties coming back in popularity. That would mean shorter tie lengths coming back. But what about today you ask? It is my opinion that a tie should come down and just the tip of the tie should cover the belt buckle. Too long and it starts to look silly and too short it can also look bad. tall guys or guys with a big gut need to be a little more concerned about tie length as a short tie can make them look poorly dressed.
How to Tie a Half Windsor Knot
I've been a waiter twice in my life and there is something I like about the job. Part of is that I enjoy helping people, same with this "how to tie a tie" website really. As a waiter though there is a real instantaneous feedback loop on good service and getting good tips. So if you like helping people its an easy job. So along comes this study... now I'm not a candy person so I would never think about this but giving candy helps tips, check out the study and try it out. let me know the your results.Question: Does giving restaurant customers a piece of candy after the meal increase the size of tips they leave? If so, why?
Answer: YES! In Experiment 1, giving guests candy increased their tips from 15.1% to 17.8% of the bill (t(90) = 5.25, p , .0001). In Experiment 2, tips increased with the amount of candy given as well as with the manner in which it was given. Customers tipped more when given one piece of candy (per person in the dining party) than when given no candy and they tipped even more when given two pieces of candy (19.0% vs 19.6% vs 21.6%) However, the largest tips were given when the server offered guests one piece of candy and then "spontaneously" suggested that they take a second piece of candy (23%). Receiving candy increased the tips of large groups more than those of small groups. These findings indicate that servers can get larger tips by giving their customers' candy. They also suggest that this effect is attributable to the customers' need to reciprocate for the gifts of candy. More...
I have to admit that I don't have a tv so if I want to see a talking head on my laptop I'll checkout c-span to see who's talking about the latest Washington thing. For those of you in the know Brian Lamb is set to take over and run the country should anything ever happen to the president, yes he is number two in line since it is a consensus that no one would want Dick or Nancy taking over the role so they have agreed to step aside and even shook hands on the deal. But I share these sentiments completelyWhat we’re sick of seeing on C-Span? Boxy suits, commuter shoes, red and blue neckties, tapered legs, the navy jacket/khaki pant combo and one-string pearls. Washington is better than that. Yes, politics is serious, and fashion, to some, is superficial. But in a place where image is king, why can’t Chloe be queen?
Why does Washington project such a bland boring image, total foolery isn't it and I haven't even mentioned Rumsfeld and his silly combat boots and navey blazer combo. Ok I just did.
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So the survey results are in...If you didn't get a chance I'll leave it open.
So I thought that there would have been more interest from people wanting to learn how to tie a tie for a dance or prom or something like that. Many of you were out the way door to a job interview, which makes sense and several folks email to tell me that they got the job. I do have to interjsect here that as I have said in the past the Four in Hand Knot that you learned back when is just fine for some occasions and depending on what you are wearing but that it looks to many pro job interviews as a sign of inexperience. If you only know one tie knot then learn another, you will be alive along time and will get your $3.99 worth I promise. Check out the fat tie knot now the rage the "The Full Windsor Knot"
What did surprize me is that a big chunk of respondents just want to learn a new tie know and look good for the ladies. Nice one. Maybe I should run a survey about which on impresses the most.
Feel free to comment.
Here is the link for the Why do you want to learn how to tie a tie survey.
Wow would I love to check this out. If you are in New York and have a chance let us know how it is.The Story of Men's Fashion Told Through Its Rebels and Rakes, in New Exhibition at The New York Public Library.
As the world of fashion launches its fall runway shows inside and around the Library, A Rakish History of Men's Wear provides an opportunity for viewers to trace the social, cultural, political, and aesthetic influences that have shaped the development of men's fashion," said Paul LeClerc, President of The New York Public Library. "The Library's rich trove of historical costume and fashion plate materials are an invaluable resource for anyone interested in understanding the forces that have shaped styles of dress from antiquity to today."
Top Four Reason Men Learn to Tie a Tie
Ok, I don't have a TV so I'm a little slow to notice things like doesn't wear a bow tie anymore and he has a new show inwhich"Tucker Carlson is the host of MSNBC’s Tucker, a fast paced, no-holds-barred conversation about the day’s developments in news, politics, world issues and pop culture."
"no-holds-barred conversation" wow that almost sound exciting, like virtual cage fighting with words. But what interests me is when did he loose the Bow Tie? Was that part of the MSNBC contract? Was it a result of the thrashing by Jon Stewart? Which by the way was the one "no-holds-barred conversation" that Tucker Carlson was involved in on TV and it killed his show. So I guess he is somewhere in that no tie or sometimes tie fashion statement. Its a phase incase you haven't noticed, like Barack Obama has it too, I guess its the dotcom billionaire look. Let me know your comments I'm curious.
Here is a foto of the former Tucker.
I'm never sure what I should make of a comment like the one that Peter Frampton made at the Grammy's the other day, to which he wore a black suit and a silver and black-striped tie. Here's the quote...“I decided that I wanted to wear a tie because unfortunately I lost my dad halfway through making this record, it’s a tribute to him because he always wore a tie. This is the first time I’ve worn a tie since I left school. I didn’t even wear a tie at our wedding.”
My hunch is that he sees wearing a tie as only something one would do to please they father, which is a lot of power to give to a silly little piece of fabric that we tie around our neck, but maybe that power is why it endures. I guess its like heels for guys, just ask a woman about what they think about wearing heels and get ready for an earful and head scratching and questions that form in your head that you would be foolish to ask.
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I have always loved these on a trip to NYCThe pall would lift a bit, however, when I spotted the little man with the big money bag sitting quietly on the uptown platform as the Eighth Avenue trains barreled by. Without fail,
he would be dressed smartly in top hat, bow tie and well-polished shoes, which dangled over the edge of the bench because his legs were so short. More...
maybe its the photos but man some fur coats just say "cat" don't they?It means we can pretend our normally laid-back city is actually quite fancy-pants. Oh, yes, we always wear tuxes on the weekends.
Saturday night, the San Diego Opera held its 2007 Gala to celebrate the opening of “Boris Godunov,” and the fashions were more plentiful than the caviar and vodka.
There were Carolina Herreras and Roberto Cavallis. Lanvins and Calvin Kleins. Sparkly handbags and super-high heels.
“There aren't many opportunities to dress up,” Esther Burnham said. “But the opera is one of those nights. It has always been very special to me.”
Yes, it was a magical night. One where women got their hair done and men wore actual cuff links. A night when it was OK to wear fur (depending on who you ask) and even more OK to wear a bow tie.
But like Cinderella at the stroke of midnight, once those opera ladies stop singing, it's back to Juicy Couture hoodies for us all. More...
I think that I posted something similar to this in the past, maybe it is a trend.. if you have it let me know if it is any goodHOW to behave at a lap-dancing club.” When I saw that on the list of things Dylan Jones feels 21st century men need to know, I was determined to read this book.
I guess thats why one would include such a chapter...
I do not go to lap-dancing clubs, and I am not a man, nor terribly modern. But I have friends who do, and are, so I toyed with the idea of reading Mr Jones’ Rules for the Modern Man and then maybe running etiquette clinics. Anyway, some of the information he offers is quite useful no matter your sex and even if you prefer the out-of-print novels of long-dead authors no one has ever heard of to ? oooh ? say ? Dan Brown.
There is, of course, some stuff in this book that the average Malaysian man would not understand and never in a million years need to know.A Windsor knot? What’s that? Black tie? White tie? Huh? Of course, there’s no harm in knowing these things. If you like showing off, you could just mug up on these topics, and then bore your friends senseless with the useless information.
... or bore your boss senseless...
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Bow tie and necktie fact..Bow tie wearers are certainly a niche market. There are about 175 million ties sold annually in the U.S., and only 4 percent are bow ties. More...
Bow tie tying got you all tied up, at least they are not going with a clip on bow tie... tacky tacky.A generation of women grew up following Shirley Conran’s mantra “Life’s too short to stuff a mushroom”. Modern men have arrived at the same conclusion about bow-ties.
Every time a ball or an awards do came up I’d find myself e-mailing around frantically trying to find some well-educated chap who knew how to tie the damn thing. After half an hour’s torture I’d give up and I’d say “Never mind — the Concierge at the Hilton/Dorchester/Grosvenor House will know how.” They never did.
There are no bow-tie wearers left in the public eye — not since Robin Day died and Professor Heinz Wolff stopped being on TV. The advertising and PR industries had their bow-tie wearers in the 1980s — men who thought a piece of polka-dotted silk made them look creative and free-thinking. But even they have succumbed to the open-neck now. They now express their personalities with lurid shirts instead.
The adherents argued that the bow-tie was practical — it didn’t get in the way. Fine for surgeons and snooker players — pretty irrelevant for the rest of us.
But there is a little light at the end or the tunnel
Understand this and you are on the way to understanding that the black tie demanded at the Oscars and other formal occasions is an invention designed to save men from themselves. True, black tie can make it hard to distinguish at first glance between an unusually short Basingstoke chartered surveyor on a spree and Hollywood royalty. But consider for a moment the errors from which black tie can redeem a chap — if only he’d let it. Those skinny black ties that make their wearers look like a refugee from Pauline Fowler’s funeral rites. The deeply perverse white tux/black shirt/white tie combo that is sartorial code for major personality disorder. The glimpse of outré waistcoat that signals “Office bore. Avoid at all costs.”
Not convinced? Then consider this. Women find black tie sexy precisely because of the little element of mystery it lends. The bare forked animal inside the penguin suit might be an accountant, a bouncer, an unemployed actor or a prince. Who’s to know? But it might be interesting to find out . . .
Suits and Ties made in the USA. Now I wouldn't want to suggest that you buy a new suit just because it was made in America but it should break a tie if you can't decideIf you check the tag on a men's suit these days, chances are it says "made in China" or Mexico — maybe even Hungary.
But if the suit is a Joseph Abboud, it still says "Made in America." In fact, the company is one of the few that continues to produce suits in the United States. And instead of sending jobs overseas, Abboud is hiring more people here at home.
Don't know how to tie a tie? WSJ advice guru gives you tips.The short answer is: It depends. We've come a long way from the denim shirts and pleated khakis that were the business-casual uniform dating back to the early 1990s. There is now a wide array of elegant sportswear to choose from, and a versatile wardrobe of jackets with good-looking tops can do double duty at the country club, as well as the office. Long-sleeved shirts in bold shades, bright stripes or subtle patterns look good without a tie. Knitwear doesn't have to look sloppy. Opt for body-conscious turtlenecks, polos and T-shirts in fine gauge knits in silk, rayon or cashmere.
Don't forget that regional nuances and customs associated with certain professions factor in. Coats and ties are still always appropriate in New York, Boston and Washington, D.C., for example. Conversely, in the Sunbelt or in computer-technology professions, the laid-back norm calls for polo shirts and slacks. As for jewelry: Hip, young guys in creative fields like to sport a silver or titanium charm on a black rubber pendant.
Don't forget that skipping the tie doesn't mean looking like you're out running Saturday morning errands. Strive to look polished; your pants and jackets should be tailored to fit. And accessories count for a lot. Your belt shouldn't look worn, and your shoes -- never white sneakers -- should always be shined.
Steer clear of sandals that flip-flop, tank tops, hoodies and skin tight or super baggy styles, and any top with a big logo. Keep in mind that a job interview is no place to experiment: Play it safe in a suit or a sportcoat with a tie. More...
Knowing how to tie the right knot is a great skill to have, I learned how to tie a truckers hitch and I no longer tie crap knots. I'll see if I can find a video link.To be a proficient seaman you need to know how to tie a knot. The art of knot tying is known as “marlinspike.” Knowing how to tie a few basic knots is essential, and with practice you will be able to tie each knot without thinking about it. A few that are needed every time you handle a line are:
• Bowline: This knot doesn’t slip when properly tied and will never come loose and is easy to tie.
• Clove Hitch: This knot is the “general utility” hitch for when you need a quick, simple method of fastening a rope around a post, spar or stake.
• Cleat Hitch: Is a must if tying up to a cleat either on your boat’s cleat or a cleat on the dock. This is one of the simplest knots to apply, but one that confuses many people.
There also is a special knot for tying two lines of different sizes together. It is called a Sheet Bend.
• Figure Eight: This knot is ideal for keeping the end of a rope from running out of tackle or pulley.
• Simple Round Turn: This reliable knot is quickly tied and is the hitch most often used in mooring.
• Rolling Hitch: Used to fasten a small line to a larger line.
• Anchor Bend: Used for securing line to an anchor ring. Fishermen use this one to tie fish hooks to leaders.
• Square knot: Tying a square knot is used where the two ends of the same line need to be joined. Most of us learn to tie our shoes with this knot. The square knot should not be used for joining two lines of different sizes.
Along with being skillful with knots, a good seaman knows how to handle lines and ropes. Actually, the only rope on a ship is the bell rope; all others are known as lines, hawsers and rodes. The able seaman knows where to chafe a line to protect it from wear and also how to splice lines, splicing eyes in two lines together using both regular and long splices.
Being a safe, responsible captain is every boat operator’s responsibility. This includes rescue at sea, handling onboard fires and understanding weather conditions. The reliable seaman must make sure that this boat has proper lighting.
He must know correct anchoring techniques and should be knowledgeable in reading charts. In addition, he should know how to use the electronic equipment on board including the GPS, VHS radio, radar, compass and depth finder.
The skipper must know where he is at all times while afloat. Nautical etiquette and customs are the mark of a good seaman. Knowing what flag to fly, where to fly it and when it can be flown is the difference between an old seaman and a novice. You will never see the national ensign flown on the bow or after sundown on a vessel plotted by an accomplished seaman. More...
I thought that you might like to know how to fold a pocket square.A Designer Folds a Pocket Square
Tommy Hilfiger, principal designer and director of the apparel company that bears his name, never looks boring in a suit. That's because he spices up his tailored look with colorful pocket squares stuffed in the breast pocket of his jacket.
The decorative accessories "complete a gentleman's wardrobe," says the 55-year-old Mr. Hilfiger. They're back in style now after a 20-year hiatus, he says, because European designers started using them in the past few years to accent menswear collections. "Men are starting to dress much more elegantly today," Mr. Hilfiger says.
These days, Mr. Hilfiger often wears his favorite one -- a silk square with a paisley design in orange, brown and gold -- with a navy blazer and a white shirt.
Mr. Hilfiger first learned how to fold pocket squares from his father when he was a teenager, he says. He lays the square out on a flat surface and folds it twice into a square, then folds about one-third of it in to make it narrow enough to fit in his pocket. For another look, he sometimes folds the pocket square diagonally instead and then bends the corners up into three or four uneven points that stick out from the pocket.
He takes care to make the folds look haphazard and imperfect, and never exposes more than an inch of the square from the pocket. "You don't want it too high, because it looks like you are trying to show it off," he says.
Mr. Hilfiger says it's OK for men to wear the same pocket square-jacket combination over and over again. But he recommends avoiding pocket squares altogether when wearing a patterned jacket, and says men should always stick to either silk or cotton squares. "Never wear polyester," because it looks inauthentic, he says.
One caveat: Silk squares must be dry cleaned, while cotton can easily be thrown in the wash. More...
This sounds like a pretty interesting schoolPencader aims to prepare students for the competitive world of business that awaits them after high school.
The school's students were recently treated to a guest appearance by a local businessman who told them the importance of proper business attire, including the proper way to tie a necktie. A recent history quiz asked students to explain whether a variety of different workers, from autoworkers at the Chrysler plant to hospital workers and teachers, should be allowed to strike.
"No matter what field of life they go into, we want to explain that there's a business aspect to every career," said Jones, a Newark native who taught economics at Glasgow High School before leaving to start the charter school.
In its first three months, Pencader has attracted budding business leaders like 16-year-old Nathaniel McDonald, who is hungry to learn the ground rules and skills needed in the business world.
"This school has more opportunities to learn what I want to learn, which is business," said McDonald, a 10th-grader from New Castle. McDonald, who is Pencader's student government president, plans to start a clothing company.
"This school really prepares you for the future, for the world I want to step into," he said.
Zane Crockett, 15, a 10th-grader from New Castle who plans to become a surgeon, said Pencader has taught him "how to act in a business environment."
He's also learning the ABCs of marketing and product development. In a business operations class, he and other students learned the ins and outs of global trade and foreign currency exchange rates.
Pencader's business orientation also was what attracted Amanda Hughey, a 2006 graduate of the University of Delaware with a degree in finance, to the school's faculty.
The school combines her interests in teaching and business and gives her the chance to make her mark in a new school.
"It's cool to be in on the ground floor and watch it grow," she said. More...
I can remember going to dance class as a little kid and god was it boring, I even wore a tie. That tie was a rough awful thing, my dad showed me how to tie a tie, much to his frustration.Guys are getting it.
At Notre Dame, the girls have a wide range of after-school activities that include kickboxing, chess, sewing, science exploration, poetry, theater, art and mentoring.
Signing up for ballroom dancing at Notre Dame was voluntary. (It was a mandatory activity for the eighth-grade boys at Nativity.)
Estefania Maldonado, 13, an eighth-grader, said she watches "Dancing with the Stars" and also watched a similar show on Spanish language TV with her mom called "Bailando Por Un Sueño" ("Dancing for a Dream").
She said she participated in the ballroom dancing pilot project last year at Nativity and was interested in learning more dances this semester. "I like the dance where you kick," she said.
She complains that "sometimes the guys don't move. In the beginning they were like robots. They just moved their feet. But now they're getting into it more," she smiled.
Austin Llanas, 12, a seventh-grader, said the harder the dances, the better she likes it. A member of the Young Marines program, she said her master sergeant asked her if she could show her a few steps before the recent Young Marines Ball.
"At first you feel very awkward, but now I feel more confident," said Karina Sanchez, 13, a seventh-grader. But she said she still doesn't like doing turns because "I feel clumsy."
Although both boys and girls felt a bit shy in the beginning - there were sweaty palms, tentativeness about touching and "getting into your frame"- a lot of that has diminished.
"They've come a long way," said Nativity principal Rosario Sanchez. "It's hard, but we believe the interaction between the boys and the girls, both from single-sex schools, is something of value. The boys learned how to ask a girl to dance and how to tie a tie. They learned to be respectful to a partner."
Both highly structured small schools feature college prep educational programs, after-school activities and after-school tutoring and study halls targeted to predominantly low-income Latinos.
Notre Dame principal Mary Garcia-Velez said when the idea was suggested last year for a ballroom dance class she jumped at the chance. "I felt it would be great for the kids to have exposure to dancing and to spend time with the boys at Nativity," she said.
Plus, for Garcia-Velez, it was personal.
"I love to dance and I remember when I was in grade school at St. Jude's we learned the jitterbug and other dances," she said. "I still remember them."
The ballroom dance class started last semester as a joint pilot project at the two schools after Notre Dame teacher Mary Zino, a fan of "Mad Hot Ballroom" and "Dancing With the Stars," asked the Fred Astaire studios about the possibility of doing a class.
Teachers who help out with the class, including Zino and Lisa Buffington of Nativity, confess they like dancing along and learning the steps.
After an hour when class ends at 4:45, the boys, this time with the help of the girls, put the tables and chairs back in place, put their coats on and head out for dinner and study hall.
Monday will be the last dance session for this group. Next semester the eighth-grade boys at Nativity won't be kicking up their heels on Mondays. Instead, they'll be learning to wield a hammer and saw in carpentry class."
Some helpful Bond adviceCHARM WOMEN LIKE BOND
There is one accessory no aspiring Bond should be without — a Bond girl. But how to snag one? If you’ve read The Game, the bestseller by Neil Strauss, you’ll know about the “seduction community”, a group of men who swap online pick-up tips based on the premise that a man does not need to be especially good-looking to charm beautiful women.
A key player in the community is Wayne “Juggler” Elise, who heads Charisma Arts a company that claims to have turned thousands of inept men into smooth-talking lotharios.
Charisma Arts runs regular Charm School Boot Camps, coaching men in body language, “storytelling” and how to put across the right “vibe”. During the three-day course, they are taken to bars and nightclubs to test the techniques on unwary women. The key to success, says Elise, is to “internalise the beliefs of a man who is naturally charismatic”.
You can attend the boot camp in any of half a dozen cities, including San Francisco, Las Vegas and London. But the most appealing venue is the capital of chat, New York City, where courses are held once or twice a month at a cost of £865.
If you’re on the pull, you’ll want a cool crib. In Fleming’s Live and Let Die, Bond took a top-floor suite at the St Regis (00 800 3254 5454, www. stregis.com), on East 55th Street and Fifth Avenue, described by the author as “the best hotel in New York”. The King Cole Bar in the St Regis — one of several bars that claim to be the birthplace of the bloody mary — is a snug venue to celebrate your conquests. . . or drown your sorrows.
DRESS LIKE BOND
If you’re hoping to step into Bond’s well-polished shoes, you will almost certainly need to work on your appearance, starting with a new suit. In his novels, Fleming declined to name 007’s tailor, but he did specify that Bond favoured lightweight, single-breasted suits in navy serge. For a golfing weekend in the country, he would pack a hound’s-tooth check jacket.
Since Pierce Brosnan took over the role, Bond’s suits have been made by Brioni, a family-run Italian tailor. The Brioni look is sharp — wide in the shoulder and narrow in the waist, but lighter and softer than you’d get in Savile Row. (No mention of James Bond's black silk Bow Tie).
The suits aren’t cheap. You can buy off the peg at the London branch in Bruton Street (020 7491 7700, www.brioni.it; from £1,900), but if you want bespoke, you’ll need to fork out several thousand and spend at least two weeks in Milan kicking your heels between fittings.
A more alluring option is to jet off to Hong Kong and be measured up by one of the world’s most famous tailors. Manu Melwani — known to everybody as Sam — will not only kit you out with a superb handmade suit in high-quality fabric within 48 hours, he’ll do it for a bargain £250. Sam’s satisfied customers include Brosnan and Roger Moore, so you can rest assured that you’re getting James Bond quality at M&S prices. Sam’s (00 852 2367 9423, www.samstailor.com) is at 94 Nathan Road, Kowloon.
You shouldn’t have any problems filling your time in Hong Kong. Stay at the Philippe Starck-designed JIA (00 852 3196 9000, www.jiahongkong.com), in Causeway Bay, which has sleek designer studios for a bargain £135, B&B, then chow down with local office workers for some of the world’s best dim sum at Maxim’s Palace, a startlingly cacophonous red-and-gold dining room beside the Star Ferry terminal.
At night, the lights come on. Hong Kong’s neon-drenched skyline is never short of spectacular, but now, every evening at 8pm, a high-tech synchronised light show is projected onto the sky from 30 skyscrapers on both sides of the harbour. Watch it from the top deck of the Star Ferry (the fare is a mere 15p) or from Felix, a super-swanky bar on the 28th floor of the Peninsula Hotel, where you can sink cocktails until 2am. More...
Bow Tie OptionalQ: I have received an invitation to a holiday party. The attire says "black tie optional." Does this mean that wearing a regular suit would be acceptable? I do not own a tux, nor do I want to purchase one just for this party.
A: Yes, the holiday and party season is upon us. "Black tie" suggests that a tuxedo is required. "Black tie optional" suggests that the preferred attire for gentlemen is black tie. However, a tuxedo is not mandatory.
Appropriate tuxedo alternatives include a quality dark suit. Black is the best and most appropriate color. (Dark blue or charcoal gray are tied at number two.) Be sure to wear a white shirt with collar stays. A button-down collar suggests a more casual, "preppy" look. A white shirt with the British tab collar provides a finished look. French cuffs are also elegant, and would be fabulous with some great cuff links. Be sure to wear black shoes (Presidential); fine, black gentleman's hosiery, and a rich tie.
Accessories to be considered - a tie tack, tie pin or gold (tie) rope, and a professional, quality watch (one that you can most comfortably afford). A pocket watch would be outstanding as well. Leave your sports watch on the bureau for this affair. A white, finely pressed, subtle handkerchief peeking out of the breast pocket or one that complements your tie is also a nice finishing touch.
While I understand not wanting to purchase a tuxedo for this one event, you should know they can be found quite reasonably priced these days at many retail establishments. The great benefit here is once you have made the investment, you will have the tuxedo forever, providing it still fits. Enjoy your holiday affair.
If you are a parent then you can understand the dilemma of how to get your child's hair cut.Many children this age find haircuts absolutely intolerable. Perhaps it's those big, shiny scissors coming so close to their vulnerable lobes and napes. Upon getting his first trim, for instance, one little boy I know simply howled, "Them's my EARS!"
You're right in thinking that forcibly restraining your child makes things worse. In fact, I'm surprised that you can hold him still enough for those tender ears to remain unscathed. Coupled with the trauma of being pinned down while haircutting shears slash their way around his head, a child's natural fear of haircuts may become a phobia.
If that happens, a picture or the mere thought of a haircut can frighten a 2-year-old terribly. Even if your child's apprehension centers around an actual, imminent haircut, the worst part of his fear isn't those looming scissors, but the horrible panicky feeling of fear itself. That's why you can never teach a child not to be afraid by frightening him even more. Indeed, every time you force your child to sit through his fear, you make it grow. The only haircut that will truly convince him that "there's nothing to be afraid of" is the haircut that doesn't scare him. That said, these steps should help lessen the trauma surrounding haircuts:
For some kids, the formality of a trip to the barbershop is what's frightening: entering a strange, funny-smelling environment; getting teased and cooed over by the assembled patrons there; climbing into a large, odd-looking contraption; and being wetted down and wrapped in plastic garments. If you suspect this might be the case, try cutting your child's hair at home while he sits on the floor and looks at something other than his own tense face in a mirror — his favorite video, perhaps, or a simple puzzle you've set up to distract him. If his fear is really focused on those scissors, try substituting clippers or a long-handled razor instead. Having a friend or sibling nearby can also help put your child at ease. My local hairdresser often wedges two kids in the chair together and alternates snips and comic asides. It gets the job done, if not perfectly. More...
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"Since the holidays are coming up, this would be an ideal time to start practicing. I'm hoping to have mastered a high-style Windsor knot by New Year's." Hmm. not sure when women started taking an interest in wearing ties.Readers agree neckwear is a knotty issue for our times
By Sue Hutchison
Who knew there was so much angst out there about how to tie a man's necktie? I was pelted with confessions of tie anxiety and tales of necktie nostalgia from many readers in response to last week's column, which posed the question: Should a decent wife be proficient at tying her husband's tie?
I was forced to confront this issue recently because my sartorially challenged spouse forgot how to tie his necktie only minutes before a friend's wedding ceremony. Since I also had no idea how to do a ``simple'' four-in-hand tie knot, we had to rely on the kindness of strangers in the parking lot to do it. The shame is still palpable.
A rare skill
But I was relieved to hear many stories from women and men who are not at all confident of their tie-tying skills.
Pat Moran of Mountain View e-mailed to say that her boys used to show up for breakfast before church on Sundays with their ties hanging around their necks, in preparation to be tied by parents. When the oldest enlisted in the Army, Pat comforted herself in the knowledge that the military would teach the boy a proper four-in-hand. But no such luck.
On his first leave home from basic training, he showed up at breakfast with his tie looped around his neck, untied. ``It turns out that, in basic, one soldier in each unit is taught to tie a tie just so, and then he ties everyone else's so that they will be exactly the same,'' Pat wrote. ``He is 35 and now has a wife who can tie his tie.''
Betty Garcia of San Jose e-mailed to say that only after 20 years of her 40-year marriage did she learn her husband's dark secret that he ``felt a bit insecure about his ability to tie a tie.'' One day, back in the 1980s, she caught him clipping out a page from the Mercury News Fashion section that showed a step-by-step diagram of how to tie a tie.
``It was then that I became aware of his need for help,'' she wrote, ``But he still preferred to do it himself.''
I'm happy to report that Betty's husband has since been rehabilitated, and he took the tie diagram with him on a recent ocean cruise. ``He referred to it while dressing for our two formal nights on board!'' she wrote. ``All I needed to do was to make a few adjustment tugs, and he helped clasp my necklace, like they do in the movies. We both felt semi-sufficient with a touch of pampering!''
Betty Pustarfi of Pebble Beach said she learned to tie a tie when she was in the military, but she warned me that it's tough to figure it out when you have to tie it on someone else. ``Where the trouble really begins is when you try to use a mirror to guide you,'' she wrote. ``A mirror reflection is backwards and leads to confusion.''
I heard the same from several other women who dreaded being in a situation like mine in the parking lot before a wedding, and they wished I'd included a quick tie-tying guide at the bottom of my column.
Well, girls, you're in luck, because I also got an e-mail from Gerald Andersen, director of the Men's Dress Furnishings Association in New York. The association has posted tie-tying diagrams on its Web site, www.shirtsandties.org.
``We have only been up for six months, but it has been a big hit so far,'' Gerald wrote. ``I guess a lot of guys really need the info.''
Since the holidays are coming up, this would be an ideal time to start practicing. I'm hoping to have mastered a high-style Windsor knot by New Year's. More...
"Based on my own experience, better dressed persons are usually of a more creative, confident type," That quote is quite a good observation I'd say.Dressing to impress: what guys should wear to a professional job interview
Guys dress to impress for the post-graduation interviews.
Frumpy khaki pants and an un-tucked polo shirt might have been fine for that part-time job at a fast food restaurant, but a sloppy appearance can cripple your chances for landing that first real job out of college. Professionalism means acting the part, and this includes the ability to dress appropriately.
First impressions are crucial and dressing well for a professional job interview is a must. If you are unaware of what to wear or how to wear it, there is help online, even if it is detailed diagrams about how to tie a tie.
The Men's Dress Furnishings Association provides tips on how to coordinate clothes for those who are really out of the fashion loop on their Web site, wwww.shirtsandties.org.
As graduation approaches, senior and junior guys begin thinking about dressing to impress in the realm of professionalism.
"Based on my own experience, better dressed persons are usually of a more creative, confident type," said Ziad Kabban, an international business consultant for the Khoury consulting firm. "These individuals are usually the ones who will not only do a job well but also take initiative, propose and improve a business."
Preparing the perfect outfit takes time, but once it is set you'll feel confident and be able to focus more on the interview.
"I would advise that the individual wear a suit, as cliché as it sounds it helps," Kabban said.
"What you wear to a job interview is very important," said Michael Khalil, a senior pre-med major. "It leaves an impression on the employer as to how professional you are. If you go to a professional job interview dressed inappropriately, I highly doubt you'll get the job even if you had a great interview."
For those who are truly clueless, a trip to the mall to window-shop or a talk with sales associates is always helpful.
Danny Chayban of Chayban's Tailors in the Galleria Mall said that he deals with a lot of business men who are always looking to perfect their look with an outfit that is not only striking but also fits well.
"The way the pant lays on the shoe seems to be crucial to them and it certainly adds a sharp look," Chayban said. "I also get a lot of men who like their sport-coats to fit comfortably. I would advise students to make sure they have a perfect medium between comfort and a classy look."
A full suit may sound intimidating, but skipping the jacket and wearing a shirt and tie with dress pants takes the same amount of planning. The shirt and tie are the most visible part of professional gear, so it's important to wear them correctly — for example, pairing bold patterns with subdued ones, according to the MDFA.
"I would say that a first impression is a door in or out of a really good opportunity," said Mark Mahfouz, a sophomore communications major.
"When I have an interview I will pay attention to every aspect of what I am wearing," Mahfouz said. "First of all, if I am comfortable and feel like I look good my confidence level is automatically higher. And second, I know it will up my chances of getting the job."
When it comes to job interviews, confidence is crucial. Employers want to know that the person they are hiring will have the strengths necessary to do well and improve their business.
"I would say that about 70 percent of the hiring process is based on the way in which the individual is dressed, which also demonstrates confidence and success in other ventures," Kabban said.
"So when it comes down to it, if there were two individuals who I felt were at the same level, but one was dressed in a more professional manner, it is likely that the better dressed would be hired," Kabban said. "The one who is dressed nicer demonstrates to me that they have good preparation skills."
Darwin said it best — "survival of the fittest" — dressing better than the other guy just might land you that job. So take your time, ask for help and put some effort into dressing professionally. More...
Published November 13, 2006 06:26 pm - After finding my only tie and following an Internet diagram to secure a Windsor knot, I waited anxiously for my ride to the election festivities by pacing in front of my television —Time to learn to tie a tie
Young Democrat is ready for change, even for himself
By DANIEL ROBISON
Local Guest Columnist
It seemed as if everyone in the room had caught a fever when the election returns were written carefully on the board in front. Adults became children, and children, absolutely confused by their parents’ behavior, stood either slack-jawed with awe or stone-faced with boredom. There is little else that gets grown ups more excited than a political triumph, and judging by pandemonium in this room, this victory was much sought after, prayed for, and finally, welcomed with much glee.
In the same room where I saw him announce his candidacy in January, 8th District Congressman-elect Brad Ellsworth had to practically shove supporters to make it through the throng of people screaming his name and blocking his path in order to accept victory. Struggling to see him over folks standing on chairs and waving signs, I listened to his and Sen. Evan Bayh’s speeches laden with references to, “change,” and, “cleaning up the mess in Washington.”
While I canvassed for Ellsworth’s campaign, made phone calls, and tagged my car with his sticker, I still was cautious to believe his or Bayh’s optimistic language – or really, that of any other victor one week ago.
As pleased as I am with the midterm election’s results, I am also nervous about the consequences. Only time remains before Democrats, with years of indulging in their minority status to criticize and ridicule their foes, will be forced to go on the defensive about their own activities and legislation. Democrats will have to fend off attacks about their initiatives while selling their plan to the American public.
It remains to be seen if this new Congress will be able to handle the pressure and responsibility that comes with the task of governing. Democrats will have to convert the energies spent obstructing Republican legislation the past 12 years into pursuing a fresh and effective agenda.
I believe that the results of the election adequately represent the frustrated temperament of the country, less than 41 percent of eligible voters bothered to cast ballots on Tuesday, according to Reuters. Even less impressive was the turnout of young voters (considered those under-30), at only 24 percent. While this statistic shows an increase of 4 percent over 2002’s midterm elections, evoking praise from numerous pundits, I tend to see these numbers as pathetic.
Sure, ubiquitous negative campaign ads, scandals, unkept promises, the grip of the two party system, and a dysfunctional campaign financing system frustrate many into avoiding the polls. But using these reasons as a crutch for not voting just further perpetuates these problems and amounts to little more than foolish justification for apathy.
There is no excuse for young people who want to vote but decide the process is too tedious, confusing, time consuming, or any other excuse that would-be voters are so apt at creating. Registering to vote is simple, and as long as you’re a citizen and haven’t been convicted of a felony lately, you’re in. Of the fellow college students I spoke to this campaign season, a great number were not registered, nor felt the impetus to take the appropriate steps. Further, the majority of registered voters I found on campus did not request an absentee ballot, citing mostly forgetfulness or unfamiliarity with the process as explanations.
I hate to admit that most dialogue concerning voting, politics, or electoral issues largely falls on deaf ears to those my age. Worst of all, I believe that my generation is comfortable in this indifference, and will not change its ways unless a drastic change of attitude occurs.
Although I was initially reluctant to attend the aforementioned election night rally — out of fear of experiencing another defeat-ridden repeat of the past few elections — I eventually decided to go after realizing that I no right to give speeches to others about their lack of participation if I was too afraid to face the election night music of America’s voters.
After finding my only tie and following an Internet diagram to secure a Windsor knot, I waited anxiously for my ride to the festivities by pacing in front of my television — which by then was displaying favorable early poll returns. Ever since I started following politics, very few of the candidates in the past I supported ever won. Seeing those early auspicious results gave me some semblance that my participation in the electoral process had mattered.
After the celebration had dwindled, my friends and I somehow found our way to Ellsworth’s after-party suite and spoke with the new congressman, the mayor of Evansville, and others. Granted, finding ourselves in such company, we were slightly tongue-tied and white-knuckled. But these politicians set us at east by praising our initiative to become involved, even if we did walk into their soiree uninvited. Driving home, I spotted many political signs, so relevant hours before, sitting atop trash piles on the curb. This provided a perfect metaphor for the change I hope occurs. Pleased with my small contribution to the process, I currently remain timidly optimistic at the promise of a new era in Washington. More...
Scouts can now learn how to spot and prevent illegal file-sharing and earn a sweet patch while doing it! Wow that will come in handy when your camping,New Boy Scout Activity Patch: 'Respect Copyrights'
North by north-east! Boy Scouts learn to navigate file-sharing sites.
Knowing how to tie a stevedore's knot is cool and all, but the new hot patch for Los Angeles Boy Scouts is earned by learning respect for copyrights. The "Respect Copyrights Activity Patch" features a large "C" along with a film reel and a music CD, and all 52,000 Scouts in L.A. County can earn it by participating in several activities set forth by the Motion Picture Association of America (MPAA). Among the items in the curriculum are creating video public-service announcements, visiting a movie studio to see how many people may be harmed by film piracy, visiting a video-sharing website to identify which materials are copyrighted, and learning basic copyright law, according to the Los Angeles Times.
"Working with the Boy Scouts of Los Angeles, we have a real opportunity to educate a new generation about how movies are made, why they are valuable and hopefully change attitudes about intellectual property theft," Dan Glickman, chairman of the MPAA, told the AP. More...
This almost hurts just to read about...Thought you knew how to tie your shoes? asap's Ray Kugler offers five ways people with different foot types should tie their shoes.
It was a big achievement when you were 5, and then you moved on. But there are secrets to tying your shoes not covered in your average kindergarten class. How you tie your shoe could make a big difference in the comfort of your feet, and specialists have devised different lacing schemes for different shapes and features of feet. Here are five tips:
HOW TO TIE YOUR SHOES
1. If you have a problem with pressure on your big toe you should lace up just the side of the shoe away from the big toe. Run the lace from the bottom, inside eyelet by the big toe up through the top, outer eyelet. Run the other end of the lace through every eyelet.
2. If you have a narrow foot you will want to lift the sides of the shoe to fit your foot. You can do this by only lacing through the outside eyelets; most running shoes have staggered eyelets, with half sitting closer to the tongue and other half sitting closer to the outside.
3. If you have a particularly wide foot you would use just the eyelets closest to the tongue.
4. If your problem is high arches, you would begin by lacing a normal crisscross pattern with one end of the lace, but skipping every other eyelet. Repeat with other side of the lace.
5. Pain from bone spurs can be avoided by skipping the laces over the spur. More...
Bow tie insult thrown in for extra measure..Ever since Richard Nixon delivered the "Sock it to me" punch line on "Rowan & Martin's Laugh-In" during the 1968 presidential campaign, politicians have sought to use comedy shows to prove they aren't the stiffs they seem to be.
But Colbert's series is different.
Instead of high-profile presidential wannabes, it features relatively anonymous House members. The interviews are taped in the lawmaker's office, so there's no studio audience to chastise a hostile questioner. And the approximately five-minute segments are culled from sessions as long as 2 1/2 hours -- plenty of time for even an experienced politician to say or do something to make a press secretary cringe.
Each segment begins with a short send-up of the representative's district. Colbert takes on a conservative persona and remains in character when he sits down with members of Congress, firing off provocative or just plain stupid questions.
"Is it safe to say you're an America-hating terrorist lover hiding behind a stupid bow tie?" he asked Rep. Earl Blumenauer, D-Ore.
"Do you have to take your toupee off when you go through security?" Colbert asked Rep. John L. Mica, R-Fla.
Paul Lewis, a Boston College professor who has studied humor and politics, said the series was just "a trap" for politicians. "When they go on the show, they often seem like buffoons," he said.
Many like to play along.
Rep. Lynn C. Woolsey, D-Calif., arm-wrestled Colbert.
Rep. Eliot L. Engel, D-N.Y., let Colbert comb his mustache.
"We don't want to be stuffed shirts only doing dry subjects in a dull format," said Rep. Jack Kingston, R-Ga., who was the first House member Colbert profiled.
Democratic consultant Jenny Backus said Colbert offered lawmakers an excellent opportunity to broaden their appeal, just not in the home stretch of the campaign.
"There will always be people in the House trying to stick out of the crowd, ... but right now is not the season to be doing that," she said, noting that a series of congressional scandals have many voters in a less-than-jovial mood. "In this climate, it's must-not-do TV." More...
How-to videos hit the WSJThe new service, devoted to instructional videos, offers a five-minute, 21-second exposition, "How to Use the Shower," that delivers tips on curtain placement (tuck it inside the tub to prevent splashing) and toweling (dry between the toes). The clip has been viewed thousands of times, as have similar ones on onion chopping, beer pouring and how to tie a half-Windsor knot.
A clip posted on Videojug.com shows how to fold a T-shirt in two seconds.
It's the next iteration of the burgeoning self-help industry: teaching people the obvious. After the success of do-it-yourself books and TV shows that offer expert advice on everything from baking your own wedding cake to remodeling a four-story home, a number of new Web sites are hoping to make money sticking with the basics. On eHow.com, one of the most popular topics is "How to Boil an Egg" -- broken down into six steps of written instructions. Videos at ViewDo.com, launched this summer, address such matters as how to peel and slice an apple. WikiHow.com provides a written tutorial on playing "Hide and Go Seek." (Step Three: "Determine who will be 'It.'... Use 'One Potato, Two Potato' or similar method.")
In many cases, the obvious is proving popular. On VideoJug, a lesson in "How to Brush Your Teeth" ranks well above "How to Make Chicken Jalfrezi" on the site's "Most Viewed" list. The site's video on "How to Fold a T-Shirt in Two Seconds" has been viewed nearly 40,000 times.
Much of this guidance is provided free by ordinary people with a yen to share their expertise. The sites vary in format -- some are primarily text while others have videos -- but they all aim to capitalize on the current craze for "user-generated content" online. Amateur video-sharing sites such as YouTube have been wildly successful at drawing heavy traffic and creating buzz for music videos and movie spoofs. Now, entrepreneurs are hoping for a similar gold mine in the advice business. The sites rely primarily on advertising for revenue and offer their tutorials free.
"Thirty years ago, you'd go ask your neighbor, or you'd call your mom" for help with these matters, says wikiHow founder Jack Herrick. "We're offering another avenue."
In the case of VideoJug, inspiration came from a flat tire. David Tabizel, a 41-year-old veteran of previous Web ventures, says he hit on the idea for a video advice site after a frustrating online search for visual instructions on changing the tire on his car -- something he hadn't done since he was 17.
The videos themselves, he decided, would be a mix of homemade clips submitted by visitors to the site, along with videos made by hired professional producers. The site screens amateur submissions and gets revenue from ads. Today, VideoJug, which officially launched last month, hosts about 2,000 videos, with professionally made clips outnumbering homemade videos thus far. More...
Hmm. I'll have to look into an instructional video for this...Recently, after downing an after-work beer, my strait-laced friend Raoul unexpectedly jumped off his barstool and blurted, "I'm gonna be late to my first Shibari class!" Hmmm, some kind of sushi? "No man, BDSM Japanese rope bondage. You should come!" Images of a hogtied, ball-gagged Ving Rhames from Pulp Fiction stormed my brain. "Uh, I have papers to grade." (I teach junior high.)
My friend had just gotten into a feisty new relationship with a woman who liked a little spank-and-tie in the bedroom. Not wanting to appear anything less than a fifth-level dungeon master, he considered this outing a way to acquire "essential skills."
Twenty minutes later, after a carpe diem pep talk, the two of us were semiconfidently strutting past bondage racks and vinyl chairs with stirrups, down the dark hallways of the Citadel, Mission Street's own "community dungeon." While the place hosts classes called "Kinky Japan Revealed," "Public Humiliation," and the mysterious "Bootblacking Workshop," this evening was demurely titled "Rope Bondage Peer Workshop."
Inside was a fairly innocuous and geeky group — resembling, perhaps, a Radio Shack employee barbecue — crowded around a table, comparing rope. A grizzled old guy (someone's grandpa!) let me touch his: "Mine is marine quality — tough, but softens in water." I was fondling samples of a red, hand-dyed silk variety when suddenly Raoul whipped out a 25-foot black nylon rope from his shoulder bag and whispered, "I got it from Stormy Leather on Howard. Let's do this!"
Staffers encouraged us to start tying each other up — and to ask "peers" for technical advice. Raoul, too timid to request proper instruction, looped the nylon rope over my shoulders and under my crotch, and, using badly constructed Boy Scout knots, cinched the end tightly around my neck. I had the distinct feeling that if I fell over, I could be strangled to death. It was a bizarre new chapter in our friendship. A sociable fellow, mildly alarmed at our potentially disastrous lack of skill, spent the next hour showing us a basic hand tie, while we enviously watched a middle-aged Asian lady (someone's mom!) get tied up and suspended from the ceiling.
We finished the evening feeling strangely enlightened and in possession of important skills. Raoul could bind his Stanford-grad girlfriend to his headboard with poise, and I could easily restrain a burglar till the authorities arrived. More...
Interesting article about culture and how to tie a turban groups, no video yet though.In recent years, several organisations have sprung up in Punjab to revive the tradition of keeping long hair and wearing turbans. The 'Kesh Sambhal Prachaar Sanstha' is one such outfit which, among other things, runs two turban-tying schools in Jalandhar and Amritsar, where young Sikhs are taught how to tie a turban. Says the Sanstha secretary, Sukhdev Singh Sandhawalia, "The most common excuse boys give for cutting their hair is that they don't know how to tie a turban."
Another organisation holds a popular competition to select 'Mr Singh International' which is open only for turbaned Sikhs. Among other things, the contestants have to participate in a round called 'Meri Dastaar, Meri Shaan, Meri Pehchaan' (My turban, my pride, my identity) where they are judged on how well their turbans are tied. The latest champion of the turban and long hair in Punjab is former cricketer and the BJP's Lok Sabha MP from Amritsar, Navjot Singh Sidhu, who held a procession in Amritsar to revive the use of turbans and instil a sense of pride in Punjabi youth in wearing one. Ironically, Sidhu is under flak for trimming his beard and allowing his son to cut his hair. More...
A person watching a two-second silent video clip of a teacher he has never met will reach will reach conclusions about how good that teacher is ...
that are very similar to those of a student who sits in the teacher's class for an entire semester.... here is more on that..very interestingSome years ago, an experimental psychologist at Harvard University, Nalini Ambady, together with Robert Rosenthal, set out to examine the nonverbal aspects of good teaching. As the basis of her research, she used videotapes of teaching fellows which had been made during a training program at Harvard. Her plan was to have outside observers look at the tapes with the sound off and rate the effectiveness of the teachers by their expressions and physical cues. Ambady wanted to have at least a minute of film to work with. When she looked at the tapes, though, there was really only about ten seconds when the teachers were shown apart from the students. "I didn't want students in the frame, because obviously it would bias the ratings," Ambady says. "So I went to my adviser, and I said, 'This isn't going to work.'"
But it did. The observers, presented with a ten-second silent video clip, had no difficulty rating the teachers on a fifteen- item checklist of personality traits. In fact, when Ambady cut the clips back to five seconds, the ratings were the same. They were even the same when she showed her raters just two seconds of videotape. That sounds unbelievable unless you actually watch Ambady's teacher clips, as I did, and realize that the eight seconds that distinguish the longest clips from the shortest are superfluous: anything beyond the first flash of insight is unnecessary. When we make a snap judgment, it is made in a snap. It's also, very clearly, a judgment:we get a feeling that we have no difficulty articulating.
Ambady's next step led to an even more remarkable conclusion. She compared those snap judgments of teacher effectiveness with evaluations made, after a full semester of classes, by students of the same teachers. The correlation between the two, she found, was astoundingly high. A person watching a two-second silent video clip of a teacher he has never met will reachconclusions about how good that teacher is that are very similar to those of a student who sits in the teacher's class for an entire semester.
Recently, a comparable experiment was conducted by Frank Bernieri, a psychologist at the University of Toledo. Bernieri, working with one of his graduate students, Neha Gada-Jain, selected two people to act as interviewers, and trained them for six weeks in the proper procedures and techniques of giving an effective job interview. The two then interviewed ninety-eight volunteers, of various ages and backgrounds. The interviews lasted between fifteen and twenty minutes, and afterward each interviewer filled out a six-page, five-part evaluation of the person he'd just talked to. Originally, the intention of the study was to find out whether applicants who had been coached in certain nonverbal behaviors designed to ingratiate themselves with their interviewers--like mimicking the interviewers' physical gestures or posture--would get better ratings than applicants who behaved normally. As it turns out, they didn't. But then another of Bernieri's students, an undergraduate named Tricia Prickett, decided that she wanted to use the interview videotapes and the evaluations that had been collected to test out the adage that "the handshake is everything." More...
How to get a job in 2-seconds...read the rest of this article it has some very interesting facts about job interviews.t's obvious that the most qualified person doesn't always get the offer. Instead, the qualified candidate who makes the right first impression gets the offer. So what can you do to optimize your situation? You won't find any gimmicks or canned responses here, because it is my opinion that a good first impression is made just by your being at your best. It appears to be really hard to "fake it" in an interview in order to generate a good first impression. Perhaps the best advice is that because there's nothing you can do about it anyway, you might as well be yourself. There's something liberating about the idea that you don't really have to perform, to pretend to be something you're not.
And yet, this advice may lead some to walk into the interview room with the attitude of "Here I am, take me or leave me." What a mistake that would be! I asked Bernieri, now chair of the psychology department at Oregon State University in Corvallis, for some advice. Bernieri is one of the world's foremost authorities on nonverbal communication. Here are his recommendations:
- Make yourself a better candidate for a good first impression: "While first impressions are indeed prerational, there are things that you can do before an interview to improve the odds. For example, being well dressed and nicely groomed is in your control. You wouldn't believe the impact of attire on the first impression."
- "Contrast Effect" will affect an interviewer's impressions of you: "Remember that an interviewer may see a dozen people or more in a day. He or she remembers those who stand out, either good or bad. Individual differences jump out at interviewers. If all they see are sneakers all day long, your dress shoes suddenly look very memorable."
- The handshake is in your control: "I'm the first one to admit that when things aren't in your control, don't worry about them, but this critical first impression element can be practiced. The important thing isn't the strength of your grip, it is meeting 'web to web' and matching up hands so that the interviewer doesn't get a handful of fingers. In our research, men consistently get better marks on handshakes, but that is only because they've had much more practice." More...
Check out Google Base How to tie a Windsor KnotDescription
How to tie a Windsor Knot.
The Windsor knot is a large symmetrical triangular knot for shirts with wide collar openings.
1. To tie the Windsor knot, place the tie around your neck with the wide end in your right hand and the narrow end in your let hand.
2. Notice how far above or below the end of the narrow end of the tie is in relation to your belt. This point of reference will be useful later if your tie comes out too long or too short.
3. Take you right hand and cross the wide end of the tie over the narrow end and bring the wide end up through the inside of the neck loop you just formed.
4. Bring the wide end down to the left, around and behind the narrow end, ending on your right. More...
Spiffy uniform, bow tie and apron, oh joy!Pudding is stewed plums with a home-made crunchy oat topping. It's timed for autumn, to tie in with any harvest festival work a nanny might be doing with her charges. I try the plums, which are delicious, and stifle my feelings of guilt at the tea I have planned for my own children: fish fingers, frozen peas and yoghurt.
I hastily buy the Norland Cook Book in the hope that I will be able to learn how to make traditional favourites like toad in the hole and hot cross buns, both of which would normally be beyond me.
"Of course, there are times when a nanny will not be able to stop the children eating processed foods, especially if the parents want them to," says Mrs Tucker. "But my job is to make sure the nannies have the confidence to cook lovely healthy food and set a good example for the children — and the whole family."
Norland girls (there have been just two male students over the years) learn a myriad of skills. As well as nappy-changing, they also spend a day at a 'skid pad' in case they ever hit black ice when driving a car with their charges.
"It was terrifying but great fun," one tells me. And, due to the rarefied worlds they are shortly to move in, they need to learn things that we 'normal' parents don't — including how best to get children on and off aircraft. (Always check the sides of the airline seat for stray peanuts, I am told. More...
How to Tie a Tie Video will teach you how to tie a tie with our easy to follow streaming videos.
How to make the sale, advice from an expert“For some it’s a matter of teaching them to tie a tie, to smile, to make eye contact, to watch their tone of voice. We’re like their second mom and dad. We don’t lose people because we work them too hard.
“This is not about who you are but what you become in the process of sales. We are teaching them to live. Our money comes from our own character. You can’t make more than you can handle.”
One of the tasks Lowery has set for his sales team is to become more involved in community affairs, charity and volunteer work.
Don’t be surprised to see Lowery or his staff working behind the steam table at Randy Sams Homeless Shelter or volunteering at other nonprofit functions.
“Right now we have about 40 people now working in Texarkana who weren’t working before. I know I’ve made a good impact on these young people. I am introducing them to a healthier lifestyle, to become responsible citizens and to give to charity. Mostly I want them to be sharp individuals with the proper ethics.”
A quick Internet search for Kirby Home Cleaning Systems or simply, Kirby vacuum cleaners, also reveals consumer reports citing problems and objections to the home demonstration sales approach. But Lowery is particularly bent on instructing his distributors and sales staff in the proper ethics of individual, one-on-one sales.
Lowery emphasized his personal and professional commitment to ensuring Texarkana consumers are able to have a positive Kirby experience.
"I'd never worn a tie before. My grandad taught me how to tie it."...Maybe I should get a grandfather for my videosIT IS the must have accessory for autumn 2006.
A school tie inspired by the pop art of Bridget Riley and designed by a high street name has started a uniform trend.
The new look was flying off the shelves in the stock room at Norwood School as last season's green jumper and navy skirt were banished to the back of the wardrobe.
Although only Year 7 pupils at the school in Crown Dale,West Norwood, were required to wear the uniform, 600 of the 700 children on the roll opted to dress in it.
The girls chose the colour and style to make a fashion statement marking the change of the single sex school to mixed in September 2007.
Their ideas were developed by Darren Green, a professional tie designer for high street chains including Next and Marks & Spencer, whose dad, Tom, is the school's premises manager.
Stylist Lyn Harvey, whose credits include television programme The Bill, designed the rest of the uniform based on drawings by pupils.
The logo on the purple jumper and blazer reflects the fabric of the school's performing and visual arts specialism.
In the playground, the fashion critics gave their new outfit top marks.
Kerri-Ann Morgan, 11, said: "It is very different - not what you would expect a school uniform to look like.
"People in the street ask me which school I go to."
Amira Shariif-Ali, 11, said: "I like the different colours in the tie because it brightens up the uniform.
"I'd never worn a tie before. My grandad taught me how to tie it."
Headteacher Denise Webster said: "I am thrilled that we can now officially unveil our new school uniform.
"The students and staff are incredibly proud of our new look and the positive feeling it has helped to inspire in our school."
The uniform of jacket, jumper and tie costs £63. More...
This is going to be bigOnline search engine giant Google will this week tie-up a $1.6bn deal to scoop up video sharing website YouTube, it was reported today.
Internet surfers have made the site one of the world’s most popular destinations on the web with an estimated 100 million video clips viewed every day.
However, while YouTube has drawn big crowds, it has yet to prove it can generate profits and Google is thought to be keen to maximise the untapped potential.
The Sunday Times has suggested the site’s owners would welcome financial help to support the cost of hosting the ever growing number of clips – reported to be $1.5m each month.
Google is reported to be eager to run advertisements along the side the videos in a similar fashion to its popular search engine facility.
California-based YouTube has become a massive internet hit since it was launched in a Silicon Valley garage 19 months ago by two friends.
Last month it signed a deal with Warner Music which will allow users to watch thousands of videos by artists such as Madonna and the Red Hot Chili Peppers.
The landmark deal, which comes after concerns were voiced about the amount of material subject to copyright that currently appears without permission, was seen as a significant step in the entertainment industry’s process of embracing the internet.
In August, Google announced it was providing search and advertising at online hangout site MySpace.com, along with a host of other websites owned by News Corporation’s Fox Interactive Media arm.
The deal could see Google pay Fox $900m by 2010 as long as web traffic targets are met, but the companies said they could also forge a deeper relationship in the future. More...
how to stop smoking, how to tie a Windsor Knot, how to behave at a lap-dancing club
This sounds greatLast week Paul Smith hosted the launch of GQ editor and oft-voted stylish male Dylan Jones' new book 'Mr Jones' Rules' at his Floral Street shop in London. The book is described as a "complete modern guide to being a man in the twentyfirst century and aims to give men the best possible platform for advancing in the world, offering the best advice for a multitude of difficult situations."
Mr Jones endeavours to teach men all the things he feels they should know, including how to buy lingerie, how to stop smoking, how to tie a Windsor Knot, how to behave at a lap-dancing club and many other rules of current behaviour. As etiquette, elegance and manners begin to return to our lives and fashions, this looks like a perfect tool for the aspiring gentleman.
Cleverly launched in time for christmas shopping, this book will probably be given as a joke and a great stocking-filler, but maybe will secretly end up being very useful- especially as it answers lots of those questions you always wanted answered but never got round to asking. more...
Clothier tips his hat to elegant British designs
Got Style? Dwayne Collins Does and shares his know how.If Dwayne Collins has a vice, it's his affinity for high-end attire. The new chairperson of the Charlotte-Mecklenburg Black Political Caucus says his sense of style served him well in his role as an image consultant and compelled him to host the stylish cable show "Gotham Sophisticate." Today Collins, 38, is a custom clothier with DW Designs and is finishing degrees in both English and religious study at Johnson C. Smith.
Q. How long have you been interested in fashion? I've been excited about clothes since I was a junior in high school. In 12th grade, me and three other gentlemen were considered the best dressed at Garinger High School in 1985.
Q. What did you wear in high school? I was real fashion forward. Cotler suits. Giorgio Brutini shoes. Thankfully, as we got older our tastes evolved.
Q. What do your clothes say about you? Hopefully they say I'm a bit of a dandy.
Q. Can you define a dandy for me? A dandy is somebody that is almost costume-ish, but not quite. Particularly the hats make me a dandy.
Q. How does this show up in your clothing choices? My suits are very traditional, but I'm a bit unpredictable. I usually wear hats. Fedoras, homburgs, sennit or straw border hats. I also wear braces. I like to have fun with my hosiery. I have a great admiration for British style. Particularly Burberry and Ralph Lauren.
Q. Where do you buy hats here? There's a new hat shop on Independence Boulevard called Alexander Hats. Sometimes I go to Brooks Brothers in Atlanta. J.O. Jones in SouthPark used to have great hats.
Q. What do you like about clothes made by British designers? The elegance. It is something that speaks to longevity. These particular suits I have embrace the height of men's elegance, which was the 1930s.
Q. Tell me someone whose style you admire. The Duke of Windsor. He would go to the Belmont races and was noted one time for innovating a seersucker suit, a boutonnière, a straw bowler and brown suede shoes. At that particular time they were considered effeminate, but he brought masculinity to brown suede shoes. He popularized argyle socks. The Windsor knot was named after him. He was the beacon light of hope for men's elegance at that time.
Q. Anyone else? I also like Louis Armstrong. He liked to mix patterns. One time he had a windowpane shirt on with a polka dotted bow tie. He was sincere about his style. He mixed patterns in a tasteful way.
Q. What was the first piece of designer clothing you remember buying? A Christian Dior tie. It was a glen plaid tie. more...
How to dress to impress try a $225 Mink Tie
A walking spectacle he must have been, I'll have to dig up some video on him.The Life and Legends of Diamond Jim Moran
Typical array of jewelry worn by the legendary late New Orleans restaurateur, James Brocato, aka “Diamond Jim” Moran, on an evening around town: Diamond studded eyeglasses, cost $12,000; diamond filled dental bridge, $2,500; collar pins and studs, $12,500; diamond lapel pin spelling out “Jim,” $2,500; diamond studded fountain pen, $5,500; “Moran” buttons, $10,000; blue sapphire edged with diamonds, matching ring and cuff links, $30,000; diamond encrusted wrist watch, $3,500; diamond laden belt buckle, $8,000; cat’s eye ring with diamonds, $11,500; gold topped walking cane, $3,500; diamond shoe lace bars, $5,000. That comes out to $106,500 in jewelry … and that’s not counting the $225 mink tie.
“Sometimes I overdress!”
— Diamond Jim Moran
Throughout his life, Jimmy Brocato never knew the meaning of the words, “understated elegance” … or “understated” anything for that matter.
He served diamonds in meatballs at his famous La Louisiane Restaurant in the French Quarter; sat in the sacristy at St. Mary Italian Church on Chartres Street Sundays with mob bigwigs like Charlie “Lucky” Luciano and Frank Costello, taking communion with them; foiled a pre-1935 plot on the life of Huey P. Long; drove down French Quarter streets in a Corvette convertible with heavyweight champion Rocky Marciano; and was paid $50,000 just to make a showing at the Kentucky Derby – the Duke and Dutchess of Windsor were paid a paltry $10,000 for the same outing. more...
"I can’t tell you how many people I saw walking into the career fair with the wrong knot in their tie"
Here is some good free career search advice..Lastly, along the lines of preparation again: buy a suit, learn how to tie a tie, learn how to iron a shirt, cut your hair (or at least wash it), and learn some etiquette. You’re going to need some nice clothes for presentations anyway, so you may as well buy a few now while you still have a sense of style. I can’t tell you how many people I saw walking into the career fair with the wrong knot in their tie, all of the buttons on their 16 button suit buttoned, greasy hair, stains on their shirt, and a black belt with brown shoes. I firmly believe that appearance shouldn’t be taken into consideration when hiring for jobs, but the cold hard truth is that it is. more...
Bunny outfits, complete with ears, bow tie and cufflinks
Bow Tie, notice the bow tieThe new club, on the top three floors of the Palms hotel-casino, pays homage to the past while introducing its swinging bachelor lifestyle to a new generation. Lounge seating is back, as are the famous Bunny outfits, complete with ears, bow tie and cufflinks, designed by Roberto Cavalli... Analysts said the opening comes at a perfect time for the company, whose revenues from video products took a stutter step in the first half of the year as cable companies switched to video-on-demand technology and magazine advertising revenue continued to decline. more...
Bowties get critiqued at Crimson
Bowtie on CampusGentlemen, drop your bowties
It's symmetric and old-fashioned, but just plain goofy. Gentlemen, the bowtie must die.
I've seen you bowtie lovers on campus: at career fairs, socials, classes and important meetings. I've seen you picking up plastic cups at football games and even watched you by the mirror straightening those stupid little things thinking maybe if the tie is perfectly centered it'll look dignified. Wrong.
What is the appeal of a bowtie? Is it because it's different from what most people wear? Are you the guy who would jump off a bridge just because no one else is doing it?
Wearing a bowtie, one must not forget his other accessories. Maybe some rainbow suspenders and a red honking nose. If you accompany it with a blazer and khakis you might as well bring a rattle and diaper, since anyone who does that looks like they're ready to pose for pre-school graduation photos.
I've dabbled in bowties myself, but I've also dabbled in Ghostbusters costumes and vampire capes. I grew out of it along with most of my adolescence, though fortunately there are still occasions where it's proper to dress like Peter Venkman.
And the frilly little choker doesn't look too bad with a vest and tuxedo. I remember wearing a sleek blue one to the high school prom and driving the ladies wild, but I wore a necktie with a tuxedo for my sister's wedding two weeks back and even that looks far superior.
I get the feeling that the bowtie will lose its hold on evening formalwear soon enough, probably becoming exclusively worn by male strippers.
Great public figures have worn bowties, not just the great clowns and strippers, so don't get me wrong on that one. Abraham Lincoln wore one and saved the Union, kind of, and Winston Churchill wore one while helping win the war to end all wars, kind of. But Lincoln did it looking awkward and Churchill still reminds me of the Gerber baby. more...